Time heals all wounds or does it?

   I was watching a YouTube video and the YouTuber was doing a Q&A. One of the questions was about heartbreak and she wanted to know how to move on. The first thing the YouTuber said was…“Time heals all wounds”. I begin to think to myself, does time really heals all wounds? I conclude with yes and no. When it comes to a physical injury like a broken bone well of course time will heal the womb. But as far as heartbreak, losing a loved one, or emotional trauma the answer is No. I know from experience time did not heal my past hurts.

    I think instead of saying “time heals all wounds.”  We should say “God heals all wounds.” Psalm 147:3 says… “He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds.” God is the only one that can heal a broken heart or emotional trauma from your past or present. From experience, I know time did not make it better for me. There were situations in my past that I carried with me into adulthood and the hurt was still there. I would like to share with you three things I did that helped me get over past hurts.

    The first thing I did was I went to God in prayer. I went into my bedroom and I had a serious talk with God. I remember telling God it didn’t seem fair the hurt I dealt with growing up. I even had a moment where I questioned God. I remember growing up in church and the elders said you shouldn’t question God. But I asked God why my mom had to die when I was only 21. Years have passed and I still miss my mom to this day. I prayed and cried to God. I was honest with my feelings. When I finally let it all out I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. When you are being honest with God he will not be mad at you because he already knows how you feel. Even though God knows everything he still wants us to come to him in prayer. That’s how you grow a close relationship with your Heavenly Father. So if you are holding on to past hurt take it to the Father in prayer. I will say this…It will still take time even after you say that first prayer. But the difference is you have God on your side to heal the pain and not just depending on time passing you by to heal your wounds. Continue to talk with God and I promise you he will get you through it. God loves us and he cares about our feelings. 1 Peter 5:7 says… “Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.”  

   The second thing I had to do was Forgive. I made up my mind to forgive the people who hurt me and to forgive myself for mistakes I made as well. Sometimes we can be holding on to mistakes that we made. I learned that I had to ask God for forgiveness, let it go, and move on. I had to remind myself that God has already forgiven me. Why can’t I forgive myself? So I prayed to God to help me to forgive the people from my past and I ask God to help me forgive myself. Colossians 3:13 says… “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

   So believe me when I say forgiveness helps to heal wounds. I’m pretty sure you heard this before but forgiveness is for you and not the person who hurt you. You are only hurting yourself when you hold on to past hurts. You are going through life stressing yourself out putting your body through physical and emotional pain. That person has moved on with their life while you are still hurting about something they did. You have to let it go and take it to the Lord in prayer. When you forgive the person that hurt you, it will give you much-needed peace in your life because you finally let it go.

   The third thing I suggest is reading God’s word. Take the time to look up scriptures on a broken heart and read those scriptures to yourself. Psalm 34:18 says…“ The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” Fill your mind and heart with the promises of God. Reading God’s word will help renew your mind and help you look at your situation through a different set of lenses. Psalm 51:10 says… “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.” So don’t rely on time passing you by to heal your wounds but choose to rely on God and his word to heal past hurts.

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